The Other Side of Rejection
For the first time in my working life, I’ve experienced what it’s like to get rejected from a job opportunity.
Over, and over, and over… and over again. From the ones that I didn’t really want but wasn’t being picky, to the ones that I thought were the absolute perfect thing for me. Doing energy work, affirmations, clearing resistance the whole nine yards in order to “line up” with the opportunity.
And still – no job.
Then, for the first time in awhile, I’ve experienced rejection on a romantic level. Going on dates, getting awesome feedback only to have the other person shortly after have a change of heart, or mind, or maybe both.
Then! Just this evening, my son, whom I share custody with decided that he wanted to be at his dad’s house instead of mine. Leaving me to an empty, quiet household.
All of the above instances could easily be seen as different experiences of rejection. Receiving the feedback that for whatever reasons, I wasn’t the right fit for the moment, opportunity or person. However, I’ve been awakened to the other side of the idea of rejection. I’m calling it mis-alignment. I’ve decided to remove the burden of not being good enough, and turn it into an opportunity to realize what game life is really playing… a version of Tetris if you will.
 
Blocks (experiences/people) fall into my life experience finding their spot to lay. Living a life of intention means I’m purposely aligning myself to make these experiences fit, while also not being upset when they don’t. Knowing that another building block is coming, and the others will soon fall away anyway.
Being turned down for a job offer only leaves room for the opportunity that is truly in alignment with me and the kind of work I’m put here to do – in this moment. It means I don’t have to waste my time doing something that was not right for me in the first place, nor do I have to worry about that wasted effort affecting someone else’s business.
Finding out that famous one liner “he’s just not that into you” doesn’t have anything to do with my worth, my beauty or my capability of being an awesome girlfriend in someone’s life – it just means I won’t be that in his. Which again, saves me time and energy of being in a space where my presence isn’t appreciated in the wholeness of what it is. It’s also just a signal that our vibrations aren’t a match. If we were vibrating at the same speed, he would stick around longer. Why ask either of us to change who we are or where we are at in the moment when there are plenty of other beings to meet up with instead. Which is why I didn’t resist in letting my son go spend extra time with his dad either. Our only true moment is now, and my son is at an age where I trust his desire in what he wants with his now moments. Especially when it comes to honoring the relationship with his loving father. Being a co-parent for me means respecting my sons needs and not getting in the way because of my own selfish feelings. Besides –
Everyone is perfectly okay, right where they are, in any given moment.
Think that’s a bold statement?? Well, I agree. But I also know that our pretty blue planet we live on sits on its axis of 23.5 degrees, which is the reason for the four seasons of weather we experience and keeps us at just the right distance from the sun that we all don’t burst into flames.* ( *http://www.ecology.com/2011/09/10/tilting-earth-shaping-seasons/ << one of many supporting resources for you fact junkies.) I believe that fact alone, supports the above, bold statement.
Despite outer circumstances, we are all way-okay, just as we are. There is no such thing as rejection unless we allow the ego to throw that color of paint on the picture.
I’m able to live life so much fuller knowing that when things don’t work how I thought they would, it’s merely contrast to the alignment that is innately mine. And I know this to be true for you too.
So the next time plans change, or a job doesn’t pan through, or a lover decides they’re “just not that into you” open up to the idea of a shift in alignment. And that it’s merely a plot switch in the beautiful, dual reality experience that we call life.
