Push Vs Pull
Human suffering comes from one of two things; we are either pulling with force, or pushing away with said force. Maybe it’s an idea or belief that we have of ourselves, or maybe we are pulling or pushing away a person in our life, but either way we’re not accepting things as they are and that then results in the feeling of suffering.
This idea was suggested by Michael Singer in his book The Untethered Soul. Which I recommend to anyone who wants to get to know the human mind from no other perspective other than their own. The author has a very unique approach in reaching what’s beyond the thoughts without any kind of religious approach. I learned a lot of things about myself but the above idea has seemed to make the biggest impact on me.
Whether it’s true or not is up to you to decide, but I will say that bringing the question into awareness with any situation that is triggering me has seemed to help alleviate whatever issue I’m experiencing almost completely.
Reality is in constant change. Plans change, situations change, and yes even people and our relationships with them change. For me this seems to be what brings up negative emotion. Just when I thought a new relationship was budding beautifully the person had a change of heart and I almost immediately went into attack mode. Attacking them for “leading me on” or not seeing my worth. I then began attacking myself for not being “good enough” for the person to want to continue the relationship just as my ego was planning for it to go.
It was then that I asked myself… am I letting this experience be what it is….. Or am I pushing this person away because it isn’t going to pan out just as I had pictured in my imagination? Or worse – am I really going to try to pull this person against their free will to validate my own false expectations?
This is merely one of many examples that have come up for me in the past year of exploring this concept of why we suffer as human beings. I’ve noticed how I attempt to push things into place just so I’ll get my way… or pull to keep material items or other energies, merely to validate my worth.
So I challenge you to ask yourself the same question. The next time you feel yourself slipping into a negative state (which is a totally natural human experience might I add) try asking yourself if you’re pulling or pushing the energy of whatever circumstance you’re in. Regardless of the action – whether it be push, pull or both; I then challenge you to *let it go*. Let things be, just as they are and let go of whatever story you have attached to it. Know that this too shall pass, and there’s no reason to pull it closer or push it farther because you are perfectly okay just as things are – always.
